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Closing Statement for Accountability Process

vulpesvulpesxvx:

*Trigger warning: The following statement contains references to abuse & harassment*

Closing Statement for Accountability Process

We are a group of individuals facilitating an accountability process with Kaden Fillis (see link to original statement). We regret having to take this course of action but we feel compelled to put this out. We have given a lot of time and emotion to this process. Even though this accountability process has been running for a comparatively short period of time, we have given all our patience and we are left exhausted, frustrated, and deeply saddened.

At this stage, due to his continued lack of co-operation and extremely problematic behaviour we feel we can no longer carry on liaising with, or providing direct support to Kaden. We feel he needs urgent professional help which we can not provide ourselves. We have however left Kaden with everything we can in order for him to begin to help himself when he is finally genuinely ready. Also we leave him with an offer to be able to re-engage with the process once he has taken his own proactive steps and kept to the requirements set by the survivor.

Since the beginning of the process Kaden has continued to breach the requirements put in place by the survivor who called the process. His behaviour has been manipulative, deflective and at times abusive, harassing and aggressive to those of us facilitating the process as well as the survivor. He has lied and made multiple excuses. Recently he has begun to start trivialising his actions towards the survivor.

From the outset we categorically stated he must make no contact with the survivors of his abuse. Kaden has repeatedly broken this fundamental requirement. This has made the survivor feel unsafe and scared, has slowed our ability to move forward with the process and shown Kaden is unable to co-operate with these basics of an accountability process. Most recently, despite our frequent reminders not to make contact with them, Kaden left a note for the survivor where he knew they would find it. More recently still he sent them two text messages and finally left a message on the website Tumblr where we presume he hoped they would see it.

Since the start Kaden has gone through waves of abusive and aggressive behaviour when he has not got what he wanted or not been able to control the situation. This mirrors his behaviour in past intimate relationships. Most recently he has been persistently contacting a member of the facilitation group with barrages of text messages, day and night, despite being told to respect their requests for peace and seek professional help.

We have repeatedly asked Kaden to seek professional help and have provided him with a range of contacts for different groups, organisations and courses available, yet Kaden has refused to contact them, or refused to provide decent evidence he is in contact or has otherwise been evasive or shifted the blame about why he can not contact or use them.

Throughout this process we have witnessed and experienced first hand Kaden’s manipulative and abusive behaviour. It has had a directly damaging effect on the survivor and the facilitators. In essence, he has continued to be abusive. This, together with the fact this process has essentially collapsed due to Kaden’s lack of co-operation means we are very concerned for the safety of people who may enter into relationships with him in the future. We are aware this is not an isolated incident and have already been contacted by several other survivors of his behaviour. We are not doing this out of malice or for character assassination but because we have a duty of care to attempt to keep our spaces and communities safe. None of us could forgive ourselves if he abused someone else because we failed to make this information public.

Our concerns also lie in the virtual world where on various website, particularly Tumblr (where he is herbivorexvx and dirtysquatter, and in fact met the most recent survivor), where he is able to craft a polished identity which in many ways is at serious odds with his real world actions. He has even been able to use this process to continue to manipulate people’s views of him, by suggesting on Tumblr that he is doing the right thing by asking for counselling, when in truth we have already provided him with all this information to get professional help and he has not used it.

Even in the real world we have found him to be highly manipulative and able to create a persona with behaviour and values that do not correlate to his actions towards his partners behind closed doors, and this is deeply worrying for us.

In some ways this process has become a problem within itself. Kaden has been using the process as a vehicle to communicate with the survivor and perpetuate his behaviour.

We feel we have hit a dead end and cannot continue until Kaden shows he can honestly, genuinely and properly engage with the process, and fulfill the following requirements:

1)                  To never directly or indirectly contact the most recent survivor whom initiated this process.

2)                  To never contact the facilitators of the process regarding it.

3)                  To read and reflectively write about power and abuse.

4)                  To recognise and take responsibility for his behaviour.

5)                  To seek and maintain getting professional help which includes both counselling and enrolling in a course for perpetrators of abuse.

We fully expect a backlash and various attacks from Kaden on either the process and/or the individuals involved and his survivors. We want to make it clear we will not respond to this or be entering any dialogue until he has shown us he has completed these demands. We will be checking his progress on a monthly basis with a view to restarting the process in six months from now (January 2015). After six months we will be willing to revisit the option of restorative justice. This six month period is different from an ongoing accountability process. Let us be clear, the process has failed. It has failed because Kaden has failed to properly engage, we have had to stop due to his persistent abuse, harassment, manipulation and deflection during the process and his continued harm to the survivor despite our best efforts and intentions.

We recognise the seriousness of putting out this statement and certainly do not take the decision lightly. Unfortunately, we feel we have not been left any other option. We are putting out this statement and taking this action to show that actions have consequences. In this case his repeated breaking of the no contact requirement plus his continued abuse and manipulative behaviour drives us to make it publicly known that he continues to make his survivor feel unsafe and attempts to hold power over this important process in anarchist communities by disrespecting it and harassing the people who are genuinely trying to help him. Despite all this, it is not and will never be our intention to villify Kaden or present him as some monster. We still believe that he can make the necessary changes to his behaviour but it will take serious effort and honest commitment.We continue to hope that we can move forward positively to a restorative justice solution to this in the future.

Signed,

The Facilitators – 15/07/2014

Contacts:

1) For survivors of abuse, those experiencing abuse or those triggered by the above we recommend contacting:

–        National Domestic violence help line – 0808 2000 247

–        Samaritans – 0845 790 909

–        http://www.freedomprogramme.co.uk/

–        http://www.womensaid.org.uk/

–        The Men’s advice line - 0808 801 0327

2) For those who need to contact us about the above or who have further information please do not contact the survivor or those you think may be involved directly. Instead please e-mail us at Ashley25@riseup.net and we will get back to you.

3) For perpetrators, make the first step by contacting the following:

–        Respect phone line - 0808 802 4040

–        https://www.splitz.org/our-services/perpetrator-programmes.html

–        http://respect.uk.net/

Felt the need to have this on my blog again, since I’ve seen some reblogs of his posts today on my dashboard.

I can’t sleep and I would really like to cuddle.

unfrickable:

do not sexualize young girls.
yes, I am kink shaming you. 
because you should be ashamed of yourself
for sexualizing young girls, and
no one’s sexual liberation is more important
than protecting young girls.

sellyourseconds:

Be my girlfriend

(Source: dontwannamesswithme)

Anonymous said: Hey Shychemist. I've been following your blog for awhile and I want to bring up something that seems dated but nonetheless holds to be accurate today. I feel like the girls who consider themselves to be on the science side of tumblr to be horribly mistaken. It's statistically proven that women applicants struggle to get into stem doctorate programs, and rightfully so, they don't belong there. examples- atomic-o-licious, brainsx , adventuresinchemistry, i can't fit anymore but you get it

vegan-vulcan:

charleeeeeeene:

shychemist:

the—-king:

muchtoofullofsand:

hannahoort:

astropheminism:

nonlinearfluctuations:

chemistry-of-chaos:

dinostuck:

scientistsarepeopletoo:

adventuresinchemistry:

smilesandvials:

shychemist:

It doesn’t seem dated, your attitude is dated. This is the 21st century.

Women deserve to be in STEM programs just as much as men. I’d wager they deserve to succeed in the Sciences even more than men because of the sexism and misogyny they experience.

They struggle to get in because they’re the minority, and a lot of people who could admit them are sexist (regardless of gender) because of the society they grew up in. Its not through any intellectual weakness. These women are amazing and just as smart as the men in their fields.

You have no right to say these things to these amazing women, many of whom I consider to be friends.

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Wow. That seems like really fucking wrong. And offensive.
And I would love to take some more time out of my day to be pissed about it.
But…
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It seems that I have a lot of fucking science to do. 
So, uh, screw that.
If anybody needs me, me and my lady bits will be getting some fucking science done.

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I’m oddly excited to have been name checked by this shitty anon. Because it means that the very fact that I got into an Ivy League, top 15 science PhD program (where I fucking belong) is a giant fuck you to shitty anon. Also, shitty anons make Lewis sad. Because Lewis is a feminists science hippo.

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imageBest way for me to deal with shitty nonnies who think women can’t do science? DO MORE SCIENCE!!!! MWAHAHAHA

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Crap, I’m a woman biologist. I’d go get another career but I have a groundbreaking thesis on rapid evolution of reproductive isolation between seed beetle populations to finish. 

I’m not a well-known tumblr scientist…but I am a scientist all the same. And while I could probably obtain a more gender-appropriate occupation… I’m pretty content with the fact I’m an atmospheric chemist Additionally, I am also one of the few women who have managed to be selected to intern at NASA’s airborne research program. 

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Do I not deserve a place in the STEM fields, anon? 

Hey ladies! Mind if some physicists join in?

At the CERN visiting the CMS part of the LHC where were were working for 8 months on both computational and experimental work:

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Presenting our research at a conference on Physics of Living Systems:
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And visiting the Wind Tunnel experiment after presenting our research at Max Planck Institute at a Advances in Cardiac Dynamics Workshop

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Oh, me? What do I do? I try to understand why superbursts happen in neutron stars! This is important because: they shouldn’t happen but they do. And the implications could be astoundingly helpful for things like, oh I don’t know, nuclear fusion.

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Oh, just me, at a conference after presenting this:

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"don’t belong there"?! excuse you! 
Im not a science tumblr but i am a girl and a geologist so i kinda prove you wrong…?

In the Sorbas Basin finding fossilised bird trackways and fossilised rain drops
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Using HCl to dissolve solnhofen plattenkalk (limestones) to make plastic copies of exceptional fossils  

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On board the HMS Discovery, a state of the art scientific ship which anchors at the NOC (national oceanography centre Southampton)

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Doing some geological mapping and fieldwork in Ingleton Yorkshire

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So yeh anon, you’re wrong and very very very outdated in your opinions 

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Sorry, anon:  I’d love to stay and chat, but I’m afraid I’m too busy living in the future.

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Sorry I can’t hear your bullshit over my Theoretical Astrophysics Research.

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Gosh, I’m so late to get on this thread.  Sorry anon, I guess I was too busy working on my PhD thesis research… and we don’t get wifi down in the nuclear magnetic resonance core facility.

FUCK!!! YES!!!

ALWAYS REBLOG SCIENCE WOMEN OF TUMBLR

jtotheizzoe:

skunkbear:

The recent release of “Dawn of the Planet of the Apes" reminded me of one of my favorite ape vs. man films – this 1932 video that shows a baby chimpanzee and a baby human undergoing the same basic psychological tests.

Its gets weirder – the human baby (Donald) and the chimpanzee baby (Gua) were both raised as humans by their biological/adopted father Winthrop Niles Kellogg.  Kellogg was a comparative psychologist fascinated by the interplay between nature and nurture, and he devised a fascinating (and questionably ethical) experiment to study it:

Suppose an anthropoid were taken into a typical human family at the day of birth and reared as a child. Suppose he were fed upon a bottle, clothed, washed, bathed, fondled, and given a characteristically human environment; that he were spoken to like the human infant from the moment of parturition; that he had an adopted human mother and an adopted human father.

First, Kellogg had to convince his pregnant wife he wasn’t crazy:

 …the enthusiasm of one of us met with so much resistance from the other that it appeared likely we could never come to an agreement upon whether or not we should even attempt such an undertaking.

She apparently gave in, because Donald and Gua were raised, for nine months, as brother and sister. Much like Caesar in the “Planet of the Apes” movies, Gua developed faster than her “brother,” and often outperformed him in tasks. But she soon hit a cognitive wall, and the experiment came to an end. (Probably for the best, as Donald had begun to speak chimpanzee.)

You can read more about Kellogg’s experiment, its legacy, and public reaction to it here.

This is the most adorable experiment that has ever been done.

"This is the most adorable experiment that has ever been done." No, fuck this. Gua should have been living wild and free with her mother and the rest of her family. Imprisoning animals and stealing them from their families for research is unacceptable no matter how you frame it.

morethanphotography:

First Light in the Meadow by jeffclow

morethanphotography:

First Light in the Meadow by jeffclow

awwww-cute:

And you will know agony when the Bunnitaur is born unto this realm

ohmydays

awwww-cute:

And you will know agony when the Bunnitaur is born unto this realm

ohmydays

Got quite a bit of fun stuff planned over the next month or so including: days out walking with a bunch of cool people, house/animal sitting for my friend, appointment #1 with Charlotte for more work on my sleeve, Manchester tattoo show with my favourite xvx lady, visit from some other cool person + eating all the vegan pub food, appointment #2 with Charlotte for more tattoo times (on my birthday!), and camping!

I think I’m doing good at keeping busy.

Themed by Hunson. Originally by Josh